Nov 2, 2008

all you need is...

Circle of friends by Karin Bartimole

Lately I hear that song in my mind.

All you need is love, all you need is love,

All you need is love, love, love is all you need.

Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love”

Sometimes love is not enough but we , all, need love. To give and to take. We need to feel belonging and acceptance from our family, friends, teachers and our significant other. Sometimes this exchange flow easily , some others not.

I heard a psychologist said that in the past it was believed that parents should not spoil their children and put restrictions to the things the children ask. The child must learn that s/he is not the center of the world and many parents act like that. Its not complitely wrong but some times what it happened is to have a hungry child. There are psychologists now, that they say “spoil your chilren !!! “ Feed them, don’t leave them hungry. Nourish them.

Nourisment. That’s what we take from our relationships. Emotional nourishent. Emotional fuulfilment.. But sometimes we choose the wrong sources of nourisment. That’s has to do with how nurished or starving is our soul. And that makes a big difference. If we are full , we increase the others and we increase our self too. It’s a win-win situation. But if we are ravenous , we consume the other and let our self to be consumed .

Hunger is a very bad counselor when we relate to others. Its like when you are on a diet . Don’t skip any meal, it’s the advise. Eat well, because if you don’t there will be a moment that you will consume everything you find in fron of you in a wolfish way.

Cook for you self and if you don’t know, learn how to cook. Ask your friends . Thats why friends are for. That’s what relationships are for. To teach you how to cook or for exchanging recipies. Not to cook for you. Rely to your self for your nourishent. That is the great fun of the “lunches with friends”.

Cook for your friends and let them cook for you.

And cook for the most important person in your life; cook for you.




  1. Very thoughtful and interesting how you make the connection between satisfying hungers and approaching life with more ease and balance - and remind us that when we cannot satisfy our own hungers, by ourselves, it is good to to remember to ask for help from friends.
    Thank you for including my 'circle of friends' in expressing your ideas.


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